My younger self was pretty combative. Always standing up for what I believed in, arguing the point, and trying to make others see it my way. The problem was – they didn’t. These days, I’m no less principled and passionate; but my approach to influencing has changed dramatically. Some people think I do it this…
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I’ve noticed this movement lately of people being closed to feedback. When asked: “Can I give you some feedback on that?”, they don’t brace for impact; they politely say “No”. If you’re taking this approach (or want to!), I can see your point. I don’t think it’s good to open ourselves up to feedback from…
Especially in the current climate, every organisation I talk to seems to want the same thing. They want their people to quickly embrace change and readily initiate it. In other words, they want to be change-resilient. And fast. If you’re light on budget and short on time, my favourite way to achieve this is to…
Last weekend, while I was out enjoying the sunshine, my 16-year-old was drumming up business for his new window-washing business. After spending weeks sourcing the right gear, honing his craft and researching sales techniques, he couldn’t wait to get stuck in. He door knocked for hours. 10 to be exact. And not a single bite.…
I am a tough nut to crack. The more someone tries to push me – into an idea, a product or a service – the more reluctant I become. It’s not that I’m purposefully obstinate. The daughter of an engineer, I’ve been encouraged to think critically from such a young age; it’s in my blood.…
This week, I’m excited to be starting monthly executive coaching with a couple of new clients. Each of them will receive one of these lovingly-crafted practical guides on how to help others be at their best. While I always get great feedback on this guide, I’m under no illusion: Knowledge alone does not change you.…
Actually, this couldn’t be further from the truth – so many highly competent people feel unconfident at times. While I don’t personally love the term, I get asked about “imposter syndrome” so much that I thought I’d put together 7 tips you can try. This is not an exhaustive list, so feel free to add…
I used to experience a lot of performance anxiety when I very first started executive coaching. The narrator in my head was constantly evaluating and critiquing: “Was that the right question to ask?” “Am I doing this well?” “Are they finding this helpful?” Then I read an awesome book and came to a profound realisation:…
I’ve been noticing this interesting trend in group leadership development – organisations spending more time identifying the right participants than actually developing them. And unfortunately, two types of leaders commonly get selected: those who are good at self-promotion, and those who need to improve but don’t want to. “Potential”, as it turns out, is not that…
Where we live, my husband is pretty famous. People who he’s never met know who he is. One child described him to her great-grandmother as “the guy who scoops up all the teenagers who are having a hard time and helps them.” He’s the surf coach, the skate coach, the basketball coach and the parent…